I have been going thur and reading each and every card letter and note that has come my way. I would just like to thank each and everyone for all of the kind words you have had to say about my son Adam. Your words bring me to tears of both happyness that he was able to give you joy in your hearts and sorrow because he is missed.

I have a few hundred thank you yet to write and a few hundred that have been sent already I hope that I do not miss anyone.

Know that I thank God each day for all of you.

Cindy
Preserve me, O God , for in thee I take refuge Psalms 16

I do not have a photo for you, but would like to share a poem with you that has helped my family remember my younger brother who also passed away far too young. As a fomer wrestler at UNC and knowing a few of his Cornell friends, I know how highly regarded Adam was by teammates and competitors alike. This poem is fitting for any true wrestler, but particularly so for our best and brighest.

My brother died of a single car accident in February of ‘08, was an all-state football player, 3-sport athlete and my best friend. My grandfather gave him this poem, with the picture of a boy jumping into the air, at an early birthday. We have replaced the photo with the shots you see of Wiatt, off the ground, in action. I didn’t see a photo of Adam leaping or airborne in a scramble in the memorial gallery, but thought you might receive one that would go well with it.

The poet is Josephine Humphreys, but I am not sure what it is entitled.

I know your efforts are appreciated by the Frey family and the rest of the wrestling community. As one who has lost his sibling, I thank you for your willingness to help remember such a special person.

God Bless Adam Frey.

-Andrew Farrar

I know a boy and he is not like me, not at all like me. He leaves the Earth whenever possible. Hurls himself through the air in competition and then rolls head over heels and gets up unhurt, or hurt but so what does it again. Leaps from the roof of the garage. I, on the other hand, keep my feet on the ground. I have never attempted a cartwheel. Never jumped on a trampoline or dived off a diving board, even when I was the age of this boy.

I have always been afraid to lose contact with TERRA FIRMA. But fear does not imply the absence of desire. This boy I watch, I can understand; though he would be surprised to know it. I know exactly why he does these things. I am familiar with the desire.

It starts with the town and the empty street, the Spanish moss that does not move because the air itself does not move. Nothing moves. Nothing happens. A boy prays for a hurricane or murder, firecrackers, adventure, SOMETHING. So it is not just a matter of showing off, when he takes flight. How could it be showing off, if he thinks no one sees? He is alone, and the flight is private. If I see him, from the window of the still house, he is unaware. I don’t change him, or his slow taxi, acceleration, liftoff, and the silent, brilliant seconds during which he has escaped – briefly, briefly – the terrible gravity of the world.

-Josephine Humphreys

If you have any pictures of Adam — whether they be wrestling photos, pics of him hanging out with his friends, or any random snapshots, please email them to me at dhobeika@gmail.com.

Let’s put together as many images as possible to remember Adam by. He will be in our thoughts and prayers, and will always be remembered as a true warrior.

All images that have been submitted thus far can be found on the photos page.

Thanks!

“I can do all things through Christ who gives me strength.”
-Phillippians 4:13

thank you all

love
cindy

The following is a note that I received from a classmate and team mate of Adams at Blair.
This was the best Christmas Gift that I could have received.
thank you Mark

Dear Mrs. Frey,

I just wanted to write to you to wish you a merry christmas, and to let you know that i’ve been praying for adam every day since his accident. Out of everyone i’ve ever had the ability to compete with and call a friend, Adam has the strongest work ethnic, an unrivaled ability to conquer adversity, and most importantly, a will to win and triumph that even “the best” know they cannot match. Had your son not been diagnosed with cancer, I can honestly say that his impact on my life would have been similar, if not, up to this point, exactly the same. I mean that with no disrespect, but with the most abundant admiration, as every time I laced up my shoes at blair – adam was already ready to battle; every time I walked to study hall – adam was already there studying; and every time I, or anyone else needed help – adam was more than willing to offer not a hand, but both hands.

Mrs. Frey, I know you know this better than anyone, and i’m sure you’ve been told thousands of times, but your son is one of the most well respected people I have ever met. Although we both have come to love his unconventional personality and style, it is adam’s individualism and ability to stay true to his own morals, convictions, and values, that have made him such a great person, and will continue to make him such a great man. Adam was one of the few teenagers I knew that already understood the value(s) of friendship, honor, and integrity that so many people in this world tend to neglect. As you know, in this friends eyes, you are truly lucky to have such an incredible son.

I remember speaking to adam at national duals in Iowa his freshman year before his diagnosis. Excuse my french, but he just got off the mat after a butt whipping from Brent Metcalf because he bumped up to 149 due to weight problems. It was right after I made the decision that I would discontinue my wrestling career due to my neck injuries, and I can admit that at this time, I was feeling sorry for myself. Adam and I sat, as we often did after one of us had a rough tournament in high school, and just talked about what was needed to ensure continual growth and success. I told him he needed to stay disciplined and keep his mind on the NCAA tournament, and he told me that even if it wasn’t on the mat, he had no doubt i’d be back on top some day in whatever I chose to do.

I am writing because I want to tell you something i’ve never had the opportunity to tell any member of the Frey family. Because of your eldest son, and his impact on my life, I was able to get over an injury that very well could have crushed my spirit forever. It was his words that day that made me realize, “mark, you were not born to be a great wrestler, you were born to be great, wrestling is just what you chose…..first.”

Your son taught me the most valuable lesson that anyone in my life, including my caring parents, my wonderful sisters, and my influential mentors such as Jeff Buxton, has ever taught me, a lesson I recently wrote my law school admissions essay about. That lesson is simple, a lesson your son lived and continues to live by: past achievements never entitle a person to a promising future; rather it is his or her daily choices and constant efforts, with the help of God and loved ones, particulary in the face of powerful adversity, that motivate success.

Adam Frey is paradoxically the toughest yet kindest SOB that I have ever had the pleasure of learning from. He not only taught me the unconventional techniques that he used so wisely to dismantle his opponents on the mat, but he taught me that those same lessons apply to life. Every day when I wake up tired, every time I feel lazy and want to watch TV instead of being productive, and every instance I feel sorry for myself, your son reminds me that I live a life of privalidge. When I get to where I want to be, after climbing countless mountains of adversity, I can guarantee Adam will be standing there right next to me.

I can honestly say that I love your son Mrs. Frey, and that I am forever thankful for the valuable lessons he taught me, and for his fantastic kindness, love, and personality, that I try so hard to mimic. The world owes you such a great favor for guiding your eldest son into becoming such a well respected, and thoroughly loved man.

Please tell Adam thank you for his impact on my life, he will forever own a piece of my heart, and will forever be responsible for helping me become the man I want to be. I look forward to sharing a beer with him and telling him myself after a blair wrestling match in the future, when adam conquers this obstacle as he has in so many circumstances in the past. Thank you for taking the time to listen to me, and rest assurred the Bogart family will continue to pray for Adam every day as we have since his accident. I look forward to seeing you in the future and watching as Adam obtains all of his dreams, God bless Adam and your family.

Additionally, I have been following Garret’s college wrestling career thus far, and tell him congratulations. My family lives in flemington which is not far from princeton, and if Garret ever needs anything please feel free to call Any help I could give him would be a mere anecdote compared to all that your son has given me.

Sincerely,

President of the Adam Frey Fan Club,

Mark C. Bogart

Coach Buxton and Mrs, Shanaman come down and at 2AM tuesday morning where at his bed side. He was so very happy to see them.

Please pray that on their next visit he is able to say hello to them.

Cindy
If you have faith like the grain of a mustard seed you could say to this sycamine tree” Be rooted up and be planted in to the sea and it would obey you. Luke 17:19

First thank you for your prayers Please do not stop

It is another Monday morning and I am not the writer tht Adam is but I will try to give an update as to where he is at in the Train Ride Thur HELL.

Starting last Thursday evening Adams breathing had gotten worse the night doctor felt that it was better that he be moved to the ICU unit where he would have one on one care. So by 7am he was is a new room.
By 8am he had agreed to being on a ventilator he asked Kris “If it was worth his time to do this and Kris said yes.

I was on my way to get Garrett darning all of this so our Pastor Terry and Kris where with him only leaving him when asked to and then only a few feet away I knew he was in the best hands. In received up dates from both of there several times an hour.

Next came a Bronchial test to sample the type of infection they are dealing with
The insertion on a new central line
An ultra sound of the heart where they found fluid
Surgery to inert a small tube to drain the fluid
They also wanted to do a lung biopsy however he has not breathing in the OR so they where unable to get that part done.
Off to CICU for round the clock care and heavy sedation

They have changed the meds to help with the swelling he is having

Adam is currently getting kidney dialosis since yesterday at about 11am
He has a feeding tube he said he was hungry and wanted pancakes
The ventilator has been adjusted down and hope is that a setting called PEEPS will be knocked down.
He is getting insulation shots
Lots of pain meds and sleeping injections
When he wakes up he wants to know how he is doing, is following direction , and doing everything that is asked of him.

He had several visitors yesterday and was very happy to see them when he was awake.

As of this morning his platelets are low but his creative kidney level has dropped a bit that is good
He has no fever and he is having to have the breathing tube suctions more to get the flem out of his chest
He is requiring more meds o stay clam because he feels like he is choking when he coughs.
He is sleeping know and I am waiting for the line of doctors to come thru to up date me on what they want to do next.

Talk to everyone soon

Cindy

For to us a Child is born and he will be called Emmanuel

It is 12:15 am Sunday morning this is the first time in days that I have been able to send a quick post

Adam has been in the hospital since last Friday and was moverd to the ICU unit at Shady Shide Hospital on Friday morning with breathing problems.
He has had 2 medical procedures and also was operated on to remove water that had gathered around his heart.
He has been in the CICU Unit since friday afternoon He is on a ventalator
and is heavly sedated.
He is very weak, he uses hand gesters when asked questions to answer yes or no.
It is hour by hour so please keep him in your prayers. Adams asked how he was doing and his nurse explained to him what was going on with him he understtod that he needs to let the ventalator work and he was able to close his eyes and follow her instructions to bring his breathing back to where it needed to be.

Good Night
Cindy