To Lighten the Mood
Published on Apr 6th, 2008 by Adam in Adam's Blog with 28 Comments »
Goodday Everyone,
I guess yesterday’s post was a little serious, and because I cannot be serious for too long at one time, I decided to lighten up a little bit. I mean life is too short to be mad isn’t it?
Today I was able to watch my brother compete, and he competed well, losing close to the returning national champion in the finals. I thought he had some calls go not his way, but I do know that I will make sure he is prepared for the nationals.
Along with watching and being able to coach a little bit, I was also able to run into a bunch of friends, talk and have a positive trip. It is tiring though, this whole process is exhausting. I think it couples with stress and the fact that my mother wakes up at 5 and thinks that I do as well. I like to sleep late, but all my appointments are scheduled at like 7AM. Seriously, it is beginning to get annoying. I told her I will not be participating in chemo before 10AM.
Tomorrow, or today I guess, I get to take another trip to the sperm bank so if there is a chance I cannot have kids the good old American way (or Russian, Italian ect.) I can have artificial insemination. It makes me feel better about possibly being sterile, but I still do not want to lose anything. Now the trip is at 7:00AM. I honestly have all day except for church to go do what I have to do, but my mother insisted the appointment be at 7. I can assure you that after the Monday appointment at 7, there will be no more appointments that early. I wouldn’t mind getting up at 8 or 9, but 5:30 comes too early.
On that note, let me tell you an experience. I will keep this G rated I promise, but it is too funny not to tell. Ask my high school coach, he was crying. So, Friday, after hearing everything, I had to take the drive to McGee’s Woman’s Hospital. Now the sperm bank is there. Being the only patient that was a guy, I felt like they may have well tattooed “going to the sperm bank” on my forehead. So after getting there, I get a key to “Private Room A.” Now the walk of shame from the reception area to the room was about a quarter mile, through two hospital wings, up a trap door, and beyond the corner off in the horizon (all is true but the trap door). It was long. And everyone knew what I was doing because I had to carry my little test tube the whole way. So, I get into the room, and the whole time I am thinking, now my mother knows. All men know that the last person they want finding out, or even hinting at it is their mother. I lasted 22years without a hitch. And my mom’s words of encouragement “Ok hunny, go do what you have to do and make sure you do not miss the tube.” So, you could see why I was a “little tense.” I will omit the next part for the sake of everyone. It is too personal even for me to share, of course. Afterwards, I took the walk of shame all the way back through the labyrinthine halls with all the nurses and doctors staring at me through the room where my mother was waiting to drop it off. Well, Anyways, in my haste, forgetting to read the directions to leave the specimen in the room cost me big time. I asked where to place my specimen at the front desk and basically had to take the walk of shame all the way back again. It was miserable. The worst sexual anything I think I have ever had in my life, bar none, hands down. So men, if you ever have to venture into “Private Room A” please, do not be like me and read all of the directions, highlight and take notes even. It is the best way. Ladies, if I offend, I apologize, apparently enough people today convinced me to put this in my blog. And to my mother: you have just scared me for life without doing anything just by being somewhat present and removing all doubt of you knowing why sometimes my door may be locked. Yeah, thanks.
In other news, I did get the T-shirt design up and I would personally like to thank Sue Sula for doing that, she did a fantastic job and they are going to look great. We only have the black one up, but it is under gear. As soon as the foundation gets finalized so I can have my NCAA status, we will be selling them out to everyone. I hope you all buy them. They are just sweet.
Anyways, That was about it today. I ate great, slept nil, and am signing out and hitting the sack.
God Bless,
Adam Frey
“Be strong and take heart, all you who hope in the LORD.”
Psalm 31:24
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Adam… So nice to have that great “Adam” sence of humor back. I have never met you but talk about you like you are part of my family. Thanks for sharing and sleep tight!! God Bless!!
that’s funny!
Adam,
I just finished watching Joel Osteen and GOD has a message for you. Although the Dr’s. may profess that you may not be able to have kids, GOD has a greater plan for you. You have to have a GOD kind of faith and believe that GOD will bring you through this and give you the desires of your heart – the ability to wrestle like a champion again, a woman of GOD who loves you, children and good health! The Dr’s are doing their job but GOD is too. Be in agreement with GOD Adam that you will not lose your testicles, that you will be able to have children, that you will beat this disease. GOD will provide you with the strength and all the tools you need to get through this. It is natural to worry and doubt. How could you not with so much coming at you. It is at these times you you have to thank GOD for all he has done. He has provided you with strength you didn’t know you had. Thank GOD for your parents who raised you to be the tremendous young man that you are! Thank GOD for the many that are praying for you. Thank GOD for preparing you for this battle. The many years of wrestling have equipped you for the battle you are now facing. You can and will do this. Trust Him Adam. He will see you though. You will be shouting I AM STILL STANDING and you will be better than ever.
I am in agreement with you and my prayers are continuously going up!
Lynne
Great to see you in Brockport. Dinner was great! The stories were better. You will get through this, you have always handled adversity well.
You amaze me at how you are handling all of this. You are such an inspiration to other people who have been diagnosed with Cancer to know that there are still days when you can laugh and make others laugh around you. This story will someday be one hell of a book – so make sure you copyright it – lol.
We continue to pray for you each and every day. You are so strong and keep believing in God through all of this. Thanks for finding the time to keep us all updated. Keep feeling great – just one day or one moment at a time!!!
Erin Bordas
Adam,
i hope u r strong enough to come to the IRONMAN next season– your alma mater has finished 2nd the last 2 years here, this is the only tourn Blair gets any real comp for the Team title. They need your inspiration. s/BobP
My name is Terry Harding and I live in Waverly NY which is about 40 miles from Cornell. Last year I went up to Cornell to watch several matches. And I had the honor to sit next to your mother and father and several family friends. Your mother is really a lovely lady and your entire family really loves you Adam. Adam you are such a tremendous young athlete but you are even a better person. You have such a tremendous attitude and that is such a big part of battling this disease. Adam I can’t begin to tell you how much respect I have for you. I am a 60 year old wrestling fan and the first thing I do each morning I log on and read your blog.Once you get back to wrestling at Cornell I would realy like to come up to Cornell and shake your hand . That would be such a honor for me. As I said before I’m 60 years old but I to me I have a 22 year idol by the name of Adam Frey. My prayers are with you. Keep up the great humor.
“Ok hunny, go do what you have to do and make sure you do not miss the tube.”
That is too funny. lol
Adam,
My church and congregation said a prayer for you this morning. You’re clearly a strong person and a strong believer. Just keep remembering that the Lord will always be by your side to strengthen and guide you through this whole trip. My sister just completed her last round of chemo successfully, and the power of prayer helped her tremendously during the whole recovery process. She has become even more of a believer than ever before, as she has personally experienced the miracles that God performs.
Stay strong and keep the Lord in your heart.
God bless you,
Rich Sedmak
Lehigh ’71
HAHAHA Adam, your mom rocks! That’s hilarious! =)
That was the best laugh I had all week !
Adam lol that was a good one ..so proud of you for having such great attitude for where you are coming from ..will keep praying for you and your family keep up the great attitude and you will win this fight ..God be with you young man ..( your mom is like mine always get up to dam early lol )
Adam,
My daughter just got back from spring break at Myrtle Beach with her boyfriend Brandon Rader (a wrestler at WVU) and she told me about your plight. Ever since then, I have been reading this site everyday feeling that I have been riding the rollercoaster right along with you. You see, I too fought this battle some fifteen years ago. I never smoked, chewed tobacco, did drugs or any of the bad stuff. The only time I abused my body was at the occasional “all you can eat” buffet. So it’s hard to imagine how this disease chooses who it wants to prey on.
I admire your bravery and courage, but most of all I admire your sense of humor. And for the people who will ask you “how do you think you got this disease”, you may want to answer the way I finally did…. tell them it’s from “overuse”. As you can see, a sense of humor is needed and I feel that is what got me through my fight with this disease and I believe wholeheartedly that you will beat it too.
Keep the faith and keep the sense of humor.
Hey Adam –
You don’t know me – but I know who you are. I am a Peddie Grad – well before your time. Just wanted to pass my best wishes onto you and your family as you go through this.
You will be fine – you’re tough – tougher than most.
Just so you know there are people out there that pay attention to what you’ve done – I’ve been impressed with you since the day you made Friskhorn quit at the Final 4 in Easton. Here’s a kid ranked # 1 in the country at your weight, and you wouldn’t go away, finally, he quit – he had no choice, and you laid a beating like he’s never experienced before.
Keep your chin up – it’s a different opponent – but, you’ll give it the same fight!
That is just too funny. Don’t we just love our moms! God bless them all. The walk you took was not of shame. There is no shame in doing what you had to do. I think most doctor’s and nurses along that walk didn’t even notice, and if they did, they were thinking, “wow quick recovery – that guy’s going back already!”
Hi Adam!
I cried yesterday because it was so sad at what the possibilities could be. And today I cried with laughter! The “tattoo” put me in stitches, then again with your Mom’s statement! LOL If Mikey had to go do that we’d joke about it and laugh to make it a little less embarrassing for both of us! I’m sure, though she may be good at hiding it, that your Mom had to be embarrassed also. But, she too, is happy you’re ensuring a future of little Adam’s! What Mom wouldn’t be PROUD of that!
Your humor is very enlightening, I read everyday, and your courage is as big as your heart. When I pray for you I ask that you keep your humor as well as your strength! Can’t wait to get your shirts and spread them around Stillwater and Centenary! If you need any ideas for shirt designs just ask!
Keep up your faith, your will and your ability to laugh!
I hope we are nearly as entertaining and able to keep your attention just a little, but we’re no competition to you!
Terrie DeFabritis
Adam
I truly enjoyed your blog today, you do have a great gift in your ability to make fun of a difficult situation as well as the ability to express yourself. The Maroney Family are in your corner and can not wait to purchase one of your shirts. I hope you have them available before the Olympic Tryouts in Vegas, June 13-15.
Hey Adam,
Never knew you were such a good writer, you have a great attitude and the blog is terrific. You’re a strong man, and I’m very glad to know you because of it.
Take Care,
Doug
Adam,
My son wrestles and I have to say that the wrestling family is a huge one and you can’t have stronger supporters. You have a great attitude and are a great inspiration. You are in all our hearts and our prayers and will be until you beat this.
Adam,
Only just got word of your odyssey and was shown these blogs. Your courage, well-channeled anger, and sense of humor have the power to lift others. You’re right, I think; this terrible ordeal has meant you reaching others who might not otherwise be in a position to hear you or appreciate you.
Many now get that chance. The irony is frustrating but ultimately will be part of your success story. Good luck to you, and let me know when you tire of Scrabble. I got a beat-up copy of The Confrontation with your name on it, kid.
Thinking of you from Blair.
Mr. P
Funnier than Seinfeld!
Great story…like something out of a movie..lol…thanks for the laugh…I agree, you’re gonna write a book and make this into one hell of a best seller.
Adam,
I got news of your diagnosis a few days ago and have been following your blog ever since. I’m not sure if i mentioned it to you when we worked the cornell camps together but I was diagnosed with hodgkins my senior year in high school and experienced much of the same hardships you are about to go through. no one knows why things like this happen to certain people but, like everyone else who has ever met you, I have full confidence your going to pull through this with flying colors and come out a stronger person because of it. Us wrestlers seem to have an indomitable will that can get us through even the hardest of times with our heads up. Your sense of humor through this trying time is inspiring to everyone. Keep it! humor will make all the difference in the world over the course of the proceeding months.
Best,
Richie Clark
P.S. I’ve been working on my crappy golf swing, I suggest you do the same so maybe we won’t get kicked off the course next time we play!
Wow – there’s nothing worst than “sexual” embarassment! My husband had a vasectomy many years ago (and it was unintentionally scheduled on April Fool’s Day). They gave him a printed handout with exact instructions on how to prep for the procedure. Of course I had to help him shave certain parts. I was very carefuly and tried to do just like the hand out said. Well, when we got to the doctor’s office for him to have the procedure, the first nurse that was came in to get my husband ready started laughing. She smiled and told me what a great job I had done on shaving him. Then another nurse came in and told me what a great job I had done on shaving him. Then another nurse came in and finally told me that it had only been necessary to shave a little area on the testicles. My husband almost killed me! Sorry, I was just trying to follow instructions. Hope my personal story brought a little laughter to you.
The Georgia wrestling community is really stepping up to the plate and praying more and more and more. Keep up the great work. We are proud of you! You are such a warrior!
You Da man Adam!
You’re a funny dude so please keep it up!! Be strong brother we’re all thinking about and praying for you.
LOL Hilarious story man. All of us guys can relate to that. Can’t wait to buy a t-shirt. Keep up the positive energy bro, you’re gonna be back on the mat in no time.
I really admire your sense of humor! I had a diving accident in 1999 and as a result I am a person with quadriplegia, on my bulletin board I have a quote “suffering is mandatory, misery is optional”. Attitude above everything else is what gets me through as I’m sure it will you as well. Hang in there!
Greg
Very interesting post, i read it and bookmarked your blog, i will visit your website often
best regards